The way we parent differs from one parent to another, and it influences the way our children are brought up. Parenting styles are broadly classified under four styles, namely, Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved. As parents, we don’t fall directly into one category of parenting but cross over a few of them.
What is your parenting style?
Here are the 4 parenting styles identified by researchers and their effects on children. As you read on, you’ll be able to associate with one or more of these styles.
1. Authoritarian Parenting
An authoritarian parent believes children must follow the rules without exception. Discipline, rules, obedience, and punishment are key. Kids are not given the choice of negotiating or encounter problem-solving challenges. Their opinion doesn’t matter. Parents try to enforce their rules, and whether the child likes it or not, once they break the rules, they are punished.
The authoritarian style of upbringing makes kids blindly follow the rules, but their obedience comes at a price. Often, these kids end up with lack of self-esteem because their views and opinions never mattered to the parents. Some turn out to be aggressive and tend to lie easily to escape punishments.
2. Authoritative Parenting
In this, rules are also made to follow but at the same time, parents maintain a positive relationship with their kids. Reasons for the rules are also explained, taking into consideration the child’s feelings. Authoritative parents make it very obvious that they have control over the kids, but at the same time, their children’s feelings and opinions are listened to, and a positive discipline strategy like a reward system is exercised.
Kids brought up by authoritarian parents usually grow up to be responsible adults and tend to be successful in good decision making.
3. Permissive Parenting
Parents make rules but hardly enforce it on their kids. Permissive parenting is being lenient and doesn’t take much care to see what the kids are up to until there is a serious problem. They are casual about discipline, forgiving at every instance by saying, kids will be kids. They are more a friend to their kids and encourage kids to tell them their apprehensions and fears. Permissive parents do not make an effort to point out the poor choices and bad behaviour the kids acquire. Rather, they let them experience and face the consequences.
The lack of guidance could potentially lead to non-performance of kids in academics, have low self-esteem, and health issues.
4. Uninvolved Parenting
Uninvolved parents usually do not participate in their kids’ life. Uninvolved parents do not make an effort to know how the child performs in school, who is his/her friends and hardly spend quality time with the child. They do not realize the need for parental guidance and nurturing at every stage of their kids’ lives. Though it is usually done unintentionally, as the parent may have some health issues or mental health problems that hinder them from taking care of their kids.
Children brought up by uninvolved parents are neglected and are likely to struggle in studies and have major self-esteem issues, behaviour problems, and be unhappy.
Above all these parenting styles, every parent will have his or her dedication and commitment towards being the best parent to their kids. A positive relationship with authority in a healthy way will nurture the kids while they are growing up to be responsible, kind, and talented adults.